We all slept well last night.
Mom came home to stay with Dad all day. What do you want for lunch? “Whopper,” says Dad. Mom, grilled cheese. What no grilled cheese at Burger King? How about Whataburger? “No, I want a whopper,” said Dad shaking his head. Executive decision: Whataburger, after losing my patience and screaming! I just did it. Mom looked at me incredulously and Dad had a blank look. I then made the decision to take one minute a a time. Why fret?
At the time I was trying to provide lunch I was on hold with the bank (credit untion) trying to move $$ around but need both parents with me even though I have the strongest POA in existence, I thought. Credit Union rules are different and POA did not include that I could do what Estate Lawyer suggested. It was frustrating. l had to write a request for Mom to open a savings account in her name only. It has to have a minimum of 2,000 in it. Then cash out her CD and place that $ in their joint account. I accomplished step one. Cashing out the CD requires the same steps. The first step took 2 hours! But now that I know what to do it may go more smoothly.
Then it will be Dad’s turn to request Mom’s name off all the joint accounts. All this so Mom will qualify for the StarPlus+ program. When it’s done Assisted Living will be paid for by the StarPlus+ program and Mom’s needs will be met. Dad qualifies for VA benefits and I’m waiting for one form from the director of assisted living. She’s only had it for a few days.
Mom deided to go back to spend the night at assisted living. I have my hands full she said. Take care of Dad and do what you have to do she told me. I slept well and just woke up and Dad must have too or (my worst fear)….. I didn’t hear a sound so first thing I did was check on Dad and make sure he was still breathing and then I saw his foot move. YES . all is well…I hadn’t had this good a night in weeks (I go home for that) and hope Mom slept soundly as well. On to the last day of the year and I’m looking forward to having another year on this journey . But how do I remain calm with all the “history” of growing up with both parents and the tribulations and sorrow from the past? It’s mind boggling at the moment, but with prayer and my husband’s support I believe I will do okay. I don’t know what I would do without this site and this forum for additional support through this journey.
